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At 49, "Robert" courageously steps forward to share the trauma he endured as a child in an effort to empower others who have suffered from sexual crime. He was only seven when the older brother of a friend began abusing him, a nightmare that persisted until he was ten. Years later, as an adult, Robert reported the abuse to the police. Though his abuser passed away before facing trial, Robert's decision to speak out remains vital.
As a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community, Robert acknowledges the additional layer of stigma and misunderstanding he faced, such as fears about being believed and concerns over disclosing his sexuality. He urges others to recognise their experiences as valid and to break the silence regardless of how much time has passed.
"Speaking out was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done," he shares, "but it was also one of the most powerful."
Robert’s story emerges during National Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence Awareness Week (3-8 February), a period dedicated to shattering misconceptions surrounding sexual crimes and promoting prevention efforts. The week shines a light on the need for society to embrace understanding and provide support for all victims, regardless of their background.
The Police Service of Northern Ireland (PSNI) reports that sexual crime transcends age, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, and disability. For example, in 2021 alone, 4,360 sexual crimes were reported in Northern Ireland, including online offenses. Minority communities often encounter unique barriers that deter them from reporting, such as cultural stigma or fear of discrimination.
Detective Superintendent Kerry Brennan of the PSNI's Public Protection Branch stresses that no victim should bear the blame for sexual crimes. Victims from minority communities, such as LGBTQ+ individuals, people with disabilities, and ethnic minorities, may experience heightened fear and shame, compounded by worries about not being believed or understood.
The PSNI is committed to dismantling these barriers and ensuring their response is respectful and inclusive. They highlight the importance of recognising signs of sexual abuse or violence, which can manifest as behavioural changes such as withdrawal or mood swings. Friends and family members play a crucial role in supporting victims and encouraging them to seek help.
For those hesitating to report abuse, The Rowan offers a pathway. As Northern Ireland's regional Sexual Assault Referral Centre, it provides medical care, emotional support, and forensic services. Over the years, The Rowan has enabled survivors to access critical resources and navigate their healing process. Crucially, forensic evidence can be collected and stored at The Rowan, allowing survivors the freedom to choose if and when they wish to pursue legal action.
Detective Superintendent Brennan reassures victims that their instincts matter and that support is available, emphasising, "The choice is always with the victim."
Those affected by or concerned about sexual abuse are encouraged to contact the police directly or through trusted third parties and specialist organisations.
Robert’s testimony and the ongoing efforts of the PSNI serve as beacons of hope and solidarity for those grappling with the aftermath of sexual violence. By fostering a climate of trust and challenging pervasive myths, Northern Ireland moves towards a more informed and supportive community for all victims. Communities can further support victims by participating in awareness campaigns, offering peer support groups, and advocating for inclusive policies that protect all individuals from sexual violence.